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Completing isn't quitting

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"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time."  ― Thomas A. Edison

 

Today I am doing something that is way out of my comfort zone.  It's not bungee jumping or asking someone to marry me or eating worms or anything like that.  No - it's worse than that.

Today, I am making the choice to not finish something.

 

I finish things.  Many of you know I'm very rules-based and once I start something, I finish it.  Even if it's awful and I have to buckle down and power through, oh, I will finish it because that's what I do - I finish things.  There are about a million quotes and pithy statements that tell us how important it is to finish things.  Get up when you fall down.  Get back on the horse.  Don't be swayed by the uncomfortable or difficult - if it was easy EVERYONE would do it.

 


"Don't sweat the small stuff...and it's all small stuff"

~ Richard Carlson

 

Sometimes we make things hard.

I wonder why?

Maybe it's because we want things to be hard?

No, that can't be it, why would we want things to be hard?


I recently wrote a communication for work - it was 2 short paragraphs and was going to a global audience of 125 fairly well educated people.  Keeping in mind that English was not everyone's first language, I wrote it very simply - as best I could from the "corporate" perspective.  I sent it to my boss and left town for a fun time with the girls in Vancouver.

When I returned I read the final communication everyone received.  It was 6 paragraphs long - filled up an entire sheet of paper - had included 3 additional themes and was written at the 17th grade level.

 

Well....huh....

 

Why so hard?  Why can't we let things just be simple?  

 

"Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated."

~ Confucius

 

In the world of No Expectations, everything would be simple, because we simply wouldn't expect anything.  

  • The wedding would be amazing because it wouldn't matter if the flowers matched the cake.  
  • The party would be super fun even if only 2 people showed up.
  •   When he called, you would have a great conversation and then you would hang up and be happy - you wouldn't wonder when he was going to call again.  
  • When you crossed the finish line you would be ecstatic that you had finished your 3rd, 7th, or 10th marathon and not even look at your watch.  

 

Can life be simple? Not so hard?  Not a swirl of stress and wondering and questioning.  Not a full-fledged analysis of why she said that and why he didn't do that.  Not making ourselves and others wrong for not being "perfect" (whatever that means).   

 

For about a minute I was a little miffed that my communication didn't go out as written.  After all, I'd spent some time on it.  But then I thought - so what?  Everyone who reads it will get something out of it.  There are at least 2 months left on the project which means several more communications.  No worries - it's all good.  Why stress about it?

 

Indeed - why stress about it?

This week I am practicing simplicity.  I am looking forward to being unruffled, a deep breath, a calm and comfortable being who is comfortable just - well - being.  

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