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On being kind...

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"Just because an animal is large, it doesn't mean he doesn't want kindness; however big Tigger seems to be, remember that he wants as much kindness as Roo." 
― A.A. MilneWinnie-the-Pooh

From a very young age, I have been big on being kind.  I've no idea why, it probably goes back to The Ugly Duckling.  That movie really did me in.  How could everyone have been so mean to that poor little duck??  
I have always had a strong sense of common courtesies.  There are just some things you do and do not do in polite company.  
You don't have to like doing all of these things, but since there are 7 billion of us on this planet, you might want to peruse my list and see if you can just suck it up and give it a go.

Say please and thank you ● Give your seat to an elderly person/person loaded down with bags/pregnant woman/person dealing with kids, on the bus or subway ● Open doors for people who are loaded down with bags (gender doesn't matter) ● Hold the door for the person behind you if you walked out first ● Let people off the elevator before you get on ● Give the "thank you wave" when someone lets you into the traffic line ● Let cars into the traffic line ● Listen to people when they're talking to you - make eye contact, don't look around, don't check your phone ● Use your inside voice when you're inside ● Don't have loud phone conversations or arguments in public places ● Arrive on time ● Let someone know when you'll be late ● Say excuse me ● Make an attempt to park your car between the lines ● Respond to invitations regardless of whether you are attending or not ● Be kind to service people - after all, they are serving you  Return phone calls and, in this day of instant gratification, respond to emails and text messages, in a timely manner ● Apologize when you've done something that hurts another person  

Choose your elephants

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"Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence, and face your future without fear."     ~ Unknown

I spend a lot of time choosing not to be so concerned with what the future may or may not hold (Oh Magic 8 Ball...) and not dwelling on what happened yesterday, or the day before or the day before that.

When all the chromosomes came together and turned that crazy salamander or monkey (or whatever) into a human, we got the gift of reason.  Reason gives us the opportunity to make choices.  In life, everything really is a choice - we get to choose.

We consider all the different options, possible outcomes, implications, results and then we make a choice.  Some of my choices  - I always choose a chocolate milkshake - seem immediate, as if I never weighed any options at all - but really I did.  I like chocolate, I want a milkshake, I ran 10 miles this morning so it won't make me fat, I need the calcium - these are all reasons.  I considered all the reasons and then I made a choice.

Even when there is a law for or against something, you still get to choose.  You live with the effects, results, implications, consequences and from there you may choose other things.  But you still get to choose.  Call it free-will if you'd like.

What's that?  We don't get to choose everything?  I'm sure there are a few (or more) debates we could have about whether we REALLY get to choose EVERYTHING.  After all, the world is made up of 7 billion people who are all choosing and some of their choices may affect us.  But hear me out - because I think you really do get to choose everything - you just may not realize it.

Don't blame the lettuce...

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When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. 
~ Thich Nhat Hanh

I'm planting seeds. Seeds of possibility.  I'm planting seeds with my co-workers to create a volunteer project that could be huge.  

I'm taking a class called Self Expression and Leadership.  In the class we do a project.  Raise your hand if you know what I do at work.  That's right!  I'm a project manager!  Creating a project and making it happen is not a stretch for me.  

My coach said "Your project is going to be a little different.  You must give your project away to your team immediately.  You will build the skills to let others create the project.  You will build the skills to empower others, be flexible, have faith and let go."  

Oh my.....that may be a stretch for me....

Oh Magic 8 Ball...

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When I was growing up, I loved the Magic 8 Ball.  My friends and I used to ask the Magic 8 Ball everything! Most often the question was "Does he like me??"
I was very uncomfortable with the "non-committal" answers though; "Better not tell you now" or "Reply hazy, ask again" were almost worse than the negative answers.  The urge to know the future is very strong!  Getting "Concentrate, and ask again later" is not telling me the future!

According to a random internet factoid, the 8 Ball's 20 sided die has 10 positive answers.  You have a 50% chance of getting a positive answer when you ask the 8 Ball a questions 100 times.  
Not bad.  Not great. 

But if the Magic 8 ball had only positive answers inside, would we believe it?  
Come on...we're skeptics.  Things don't always work out the way we plan them.  We have unmet expectations every day!!

Heck - many of us walk around like we have the future already figured out.  I'm "probably almost certain" I know what's going to happen so I don't need to ask.  I already know the answer.

Do you know tomorrow's lottery numbers too??

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