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WIFFM or NIIFM?

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The best things in life are unexpected - because there were no expectations. ~Eli Khamarov, Surviving on Planet Reebok

Sounds easy right? It's not! Just publishing this blog brought out tons of expectations. I wrote it for me and I wrote it for you but when I started to push the button - the one that puts it on the internet for everyone and their mother to read for the rest of time - I thought "gosh, I hope they like it, I hope someone reads it, I hope it's not silly and ridiculous". Wait - WHAT?

And there it was - an expectation that you would like my blog. An expectation that you would read it, that the world would read it and that I could get people to join the No Expectations Project. Wow...we really have them all the time.

And that's OK. We're human! This is what humans do. All you psychologists out there can weigh in on the myriad behavioral theories that prove; we like the payback! We even have a term - WIIFM - What's in it for me?

A friend remarked: "No expectations is an expectation in itself!" And, of course, he's right!

And that's why it's a challenge. How many times will I start off expecting something and catch myself? How many times will I complain about something, and catch myself. Will I get so good at it that eventually I won't need to catch myself anymore? Will it eventually be NIIFM - Nothing in it for me?

Have you tried it yet?

The No Expectations Project

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I'm giving up expectations!

I know, I know - ALL expectations?

Yep - that's the plan.

We have expectations every day, nearly in every thought in our heads.  I do stuff for you and I expect you'll do stuff for me and that's the way it works!

We expect the alarm will ring, we expect we will have hot water for our shower, we expect people will show up for our meetings and expect our spouses, partners, children, friends and family will toe the line and do the things we ask of them, the way we want them done, on our timeline, and with a smile.

But what if we just did stuff without any expectation of receiving back?

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